HELP!!! PLease-Desperately seekind advice about LOVE-

What a judgemental bunch we have here

Not being judgmental, she volunteered that she was a cheating ho

Not being judgmental, she volunteered that she was a cheating ho

Consider this a nomination for Prognostications.

That' s funny, dude!

 $> man woman
 $> Segmentation fault (core dumped)
 

Consider this a nomination for Prognostications

I think you just called me an asshole[:' (] However, I find it hard to disagree.

I feel that when a spouse cheats, the violation of trust is something that can not be repaired. I believe trust is the most important aspect of a relationship and cheating is the biggest F-you you can do to your significant other. I don' t know you Dickie and perhaps you would never do something like that again, but if my wife cheated on me, it' d be over. I just couldn' t come home each day w/out thinking that she was doing while i was out.

ORIGINAL: deaddrahma
Game over player one. No continues left. .

If this is the extent of your wit, you' ll be staring at my ass the entire way I climb to up that IQ scale. I must clearly have mistaken this " obscure pearl of wisdom" for humorless thread pissing.

Lets see if i have this right:
you cheated on your boyfriend,
you feel bad, apologize and beg his forgiveness.
he finally agrees to accept, and then you tell him that you want to see other people.
now you wonder why he is cold to you.

Good god, i will be surprised if he doesnt turn gay after you did your little heart dance on him.

ORIGINAL: deaddrahma


That' s the advice we' ve all been giving. He just put a pretty red bow on the top and called it happy.

If " move on it' s over" has to include such obscure pearls of wisdom like " treat the next boyfriend better" in order to make sense to you, you' ve got a long way to go to ring the bell on that IQ scale.

You know, I can' t understand a word you just said. You put so much verbal diarrhea in those sentences that not even immodium can help them become clear.

Yeah, I' m gonna say not go after that guy anymore, find someone new and maybe DON' T cheat on him this time. I personally would find it hard to believe some girl really cared about me if she cheated on me.

Your experience sounds almost like my last marriage. My wife cheated on me, said this guy was her " soul mate" and moved out. I, not being able to tolerate infidelity, file for divorce. The divorce becomes final and ex-wife all of a sudden wants me back...same story...says she' ll change, yada, yada, yada. I know how ex boy friend is feeling...he can' t trust you! And lack of trust is something I haven' t been able to get past. I find it hard to be even friendly to someone I loved and spent 8 years with because of that lost trust. My advice is to move on and learn from this experience.

nope, im not ur ex-chick bytor...but, my ex is a member...maybe u 2 should pair up and kill the 2 of us..

ORIGINAL: deaddrahma
Dickie. You fucked up. Big time. Get over it. Move on. Treat your next boyfriend better. Don' t fuck it up.

That' s exactly what I said. Copycat.

all of a sudden i cant stop replying to these threads..i definitely needed to hear how much of a idiot i am...and after this i really feel like one. However, i needed to, as silly as this sounds...for the most part, i received the same advice all around..move on, learn from my mistakes and never make them again. i wish i had the time and the opportunity to tell my side of the story as well as the whole story..but this will have to do. what i like about this, aside fom brutal honesty, is that its independent advice..ur telling me like it is. Ur not sugar coating or giving false hope..and for the record..he never forgave me..and when he took his time to think..he treated me like $#!+ run over twice..but, like i said theres more to it..i wasnt married..i was away at school...and i never screwed the guy...but, then again..cheating is cheating and lying is lying..u guys r killing me here.

" Live and learn."

Oh my God! I think I just turned into my mom!!!

ORIGINAL: DickiesGirl

nope, im not ur ex-chick bytor...but, my ex is a member...maybe u 2 should pair up and kill the 2 of us..

Killing is far too illegal for my liking, I gain much, much more satisfaction out of watching you and your kind twist in the wind courtesy of your guilt.

Cheating and then lying about your cheating are probably the two most vile and disgusting things you can do to someone you " love" and still " have feelings for." You coming here to try and get advice when you know you did wrong and deep down you probably already knew what you should do anyways was pretty foolish. Perhaps you were hoping to take a verbal lashing from everyone knowing that most people here also wouldn' t tolerate such childish, selfish bullshit. Maybe you didn' t know any better, I' ll never know one way or the other.

What you do know now though, and hopefully crystal clear, is that you fucked up - hard. You' re now pissy that he won' t give you the time of day and probably would like some sympathy because of it. I doubt you' ll get it from anyone who' s ever been in the position you put your ex into, and those who have done the same thing are either ashamed to admit as such or they too also won' t offer you any solace.

My advice to you is this: Don' t talk to him. Don' t update him about anything to do with yourself. If he wants to talk to you, he' ll find you. If you have common friends, don' t ask them about him because word gets around and I' m sure he' ll only be served to get more pissed off at you if you ask about him. Do yourself and him a favor and never have another thing to do with him.

ORIGINAL: LTEr

Yeah, I' m gonna say not go after that guy anymore, find someone new and maybe DON' T cheat on him this time. I personally would find it hard to believe some girl really cared about me if she cheated on me.

Do not listen to this man. He IS Canadian. If you see him roaming the streets of your home town, find a gun, shoot him and mount his head on your front lawn to ward away all other Canadians.

ORIGINAL: darlene

I would tell the guy to take the advice my Momma always said " once a cheater, always a cheater"

You should have treated him " like gold" the first time you had him!

Looks like " dickies girl" aint gonna be getting no " dickie" for a long time

That is cold...and strangely amusing. Anyway, I am just wondering, taking into account that the infamous Dicky appears to be a member as well...could it be that the real objective here is not to win useful advice (after all, who would go to a drummer' s web forum for that ?), but to show Dicky how embarassingly far she will go to show her love to him? Hence the silly nick as well. I just wonder whether Dicky will come out and post: " it' s me!!!" after all this. I have my doubts.

I have been on both the receiving and the " good" end of cheating on your mate, and I am not even going to state the obvious " get over it" , because I have seen it work out in the long run. It just takes a whole lotta time (and I am not talking weeks or even months here) to be able to start with a clean slate.

/end of rant. I am feeling old.

Sorry you feel that what I said was " cold" but I have no tolerance for people who cheat. It is a done deal in my book.

Also, you say you were on the " good part" of cheating. Is there really a good part?

ORIGINAL: darlene

Sorry you feel that what I said was " cold" but I have no tolerance for people who cheat. It is a done deal in my book.

Also, you say you were on the " good part" of cheating. Is there really a good part?

Ummm, the nasty grin smiley (btw my favourite one by far, wish I could include that thing in my scientific papers as well) was supposed to indicate I did not mean this remark entirely seriously. I just get pleasure from representing the male chauvinist pig point of view on the internet, as my mum won' t let me do it in real life.

My bottom line to the originator of the thread being: please get a grip; you screwed up, but you' ll live, it will pass yaddayaddayadda. I guess this girl deserved the flaming she received from those that did take her post seriously, but real life provides me with too many problems a web forum cannot solve to take this all too seriously. Does that make me even colder than you are ?

of course ur all right...i just get a kick out of u all grillin me here, totally dissecting my thread, and shitting all over me.. hahhaha. i received some serious advice, not so serious advice,as well as some mean but realistic advice..(but, ya gotta be cruel to b kind). believe it or not..as retarded as i feel admitting it..i accepted all..despite the fact that i really have to take my own..yea..and who comes to a website like this for real-life advice?that was rhetorical..but ill answer it..someone who went everywhere else first..(which was a fruitless effort)..i was curious and wanted to kill some time..this is my last thread..but, on a serious note..i appreciate the responses..best of luck to everyone in love..and out of it..hopefully, " dick" ies girl will get some dickie soon..thanks again

ITS YOU' RE AND YOU.
-manda

Well, the two of you broke up for a reason, and no amount of time or apologies will change that. You made a big mistake, and it' s good you realize that. If he doesn' t see it the same way you do, it will do you no good at all to try to change his mind. It won' t work. My advice is apologize and go your own way. If nothing else, you' ll both have time to think about it and make better decisions in your next endeavors.

P.S. Love bites, according to Def Leppard.

ORIGINAL: mandaX




ITS YOU' RE AND YOU.
-manda

While you' re at it, it' s also it' s, not its.

Sorry hun, I couldn' t resist, I love you!

Do not listen to this man. He IS Canadian. If you see him roaming the streets of your home town, find a gun, shoot him and mount his head on your front lawn to ward away all other Canadians.

What the hell does that mean????

ORIGINAL: thegifted1

Do not listen to this man. He IS Canadian. If you see him roaming the streets of your home town, find a gun, shoot him and mount his head on your front lawn to ward away all other Canadians.

Do not listen to this man, he is from Missouri. ....I think that about covers it.

Oh well, at least he' s not from St. Louis.

ORIGINAL: LTEr

Oh well, at least he' s not from St. Louis.

Durn tootin' !

ORIGINAL: thegifted1
Durn tootin' !

Poor Usman.

My advice is pay in cash not with a check because its not as easily traced (as Charlie Sheen found out) and visit a doctor on a regular basis (during office hours not for a late night check up).

ORIGINAL: DickiesGirl
Whats a girl to do when shes hopelessly in love w/ her ex-boyfriend who she hurt more than words can describe. They were crazy about eachother and wanted to grow old and grey one day. But, being the selfish fool she was-she broke his heart when he found out she had cheated on him and lied about it when he confronted her and said many things she didnt mean.

Disloyalty and dishonesty are like RAID: guaranteed to kill a relationship... DEAD.

I' m afraid you' ll have to look for someone else. Realistically: That relationship is over and is NEVER coming back. I wish you good luck in your efforts. If you find yourself happy with the next man, and willing to spend your life with him, it' s up to you to remain faithful, just as he must do the same.

ORIGINAL: LTEr

Poor Usman.

I was thinkin' more along the lines of " poor state of Missouri for housing Usman."

Comma splice. It should be: " Sorry hun, I couldn' t resist; I love you."

I love you!

NO FUCK YOU DEADDRAMANAMDAMDADAHDAM!
I love you too
-manda